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Jana is 30, a Berlin cook and has become part of the nevernot team thanks to the compulsory Corona break.

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I think I was 15 when I first got my period. If I remember correctly, I successfully hid it from my mother two or three times and was very unsure how to handle it.

Even at school, periods were never a huge topic and were never discussed by teachers or students among themselves.

Well, I also have to say that the Bravo was probably the only format in the nineties or early two-thousanders that somehow tried to enlighten. thanks to dr Summer at this point, but I think we can all agree that that wasn't enough and much more should have happened.

A lot has changed in the meantime. We've gotten older and more open. Sex, the period and especially sex during the period is no longer a taboo subject for many. Much is now discussed more openly. We can read about it in books and magazines, listen to themed podcasts, or visit trade fairs and events. Thanks to many great and dedicated people, this topic has also found its place in the modern feminist porn industry.

It's important to talk about your body and everything that's happening to it. However, it is more important that you share experiences with each other.

That's why I talk very openly about my sex and relationship life with friends. I ask for help, just share what I've experienced, what's on my mind or what I've seen. For several years, however, I have been particularly concerned with one topic:

Sex during my menstruation.

I came out about ten years ago and have only been in relationships with women ever since. If you have never thought about this relationship construct, I will briefly explain how it is when two people are menstruating in a relationship:

My period lasts about five days and my girlfriend's sometimes six. I feel like having sex quite often these days and we often get to the point where she asks me or I ask her "Are you still on your period?". Most of the time you decide not to have sex because you may not be sure if it bothers the other person or, more often, you just feel uncomfortable about it yourself.

Personally I don't have a problem with her period as we've probably already had every other bodily fluid on us and it wouldn't bother me too much. Menstrual blood is something absolutely natural. But it's not about me, it's about how she feels about herself. And I can empathize with that because I feel the same the other way around. I also have to say that I had to throw away one or two bed sheets or duvet covers because I couldn't remove the blood.

So I asked myself: What can I do about it and how can I improve both of our well-being? Have you ever tried having sex with a normal tampon or cup? I find that tampons are incredibly drying and an absolute disruptive factor during sex. The ribbon then usually disappears in the body and the tampon is simply no longer accessible. You then prepare yourself to spend the rest of your life with this tampon because you would like to save yourself a visit to the gynecologist.

The answer was presented to me at around 11 p.m. at the counter of my favorite pub in Berlin Neukölln. And in the form of Katha.She is a good friend of the owner and was traveling alone, like me, so we struck up a conversation. She was incredibly open, free and immediately grabbed my attention. I think it took us 10 minutes to get to the topic of sex and after a while I finally asked her out of interest what she does for a living:

Soft tampons.

She told me that she always wondered how sex workers or porn actors do it when they have their period: "Do they not earn money for a week or do they take sick leave?". Katha then told me that soft tampons were often used in these industries.

A small sponge that absorbs the blood and that the sex partner should not feel...

And also, a small sponge that seems to be the solution for all menstruating women who want to have sex during their period. Without worrying about getting everything dirty.

Her idea of ​​making this product socially acceptable ultimately resulted in the company "nevernot", which she runs with Anna. In my opinion, the two have achieved their goal and designed an absolutely beautiful tampon and the matching packaging. I don't think I have to start with your website.

So I offered to test the tampons and write a report.

Both of them thought the idea was great and immediately gave me a pack of six to take home and wished me a lot of fun. I think it was the first time in my life that I was happy that I got my period five days earlier than planned.

My girlfriend and I cooked, drank wine and talked a lot that evening. I had already told her about the tampons and said that I really wanted to test them, as the topic had been on my mind for a long time. One thing led to another and suddenly I was in the bathroom inserting the tampon.

It is very light, soft pink and looks a bit like a gummy bear. Even though it's not a sex toy, it feels a bit like it. It's very easy to squeeze because it's super soft, making it super easy to insert. The first time I was very unsure how deep to place it, but in the end I trusted the two because they expressly said that there was no way I could lose it in my body.

Somehow it was all pretty exciting because it was something completely new for me and I was curious how it would feel.

At first I was a bit unsure and had to play it safe and checked whether there really was no blood on her fingers, me or my sheets. But in the end I was able to let myself go.

So Anna and Katha were right. You don't feel that you're using a period product!

Due to the fact that the abdomen is supplied with more blood during the period, the feeling during sex is more intense anyway and I was finally able to experience that myself.

I let myself be touched and also orally satisfied, which was not possible for me before because I just didn't feel comfortable with it.

It was also a new experience for my girlfriend! Because she felt it on her fingers, but didn't smell, see or taste anything. This made my period almost invisible.

I had to make some effort to remove it and think about the civil partnership with my tampon again, but luckily I was able to avoid it again. With a few simple steps and a little practice, I was finally able to remove it.Otherwise my partner would have helped me too. The tampon wasn't inserted so far that you couldn't have grabbed it.

It was heavier than before, which means it did its job and protected me from "leaking".

But what surprised us the most after using it was that the soft tampon is absolutely odorless. My sense of smell is more pronounced than usual during my period and sometimes I find the smell of cotton tampons very annoying.

So I can only say: Trust the two girls, they have developed an incredibly great product. Not only did I get to know myself better and better, I also had an important and special experience in my relationship.

This little sponge has already changed my sex life; it's much freer. I'm very excited to try it out for other activities or just to laze around in bed with it.

My tip to you: try the things, touch each other and have sex. I really recommend it to everyone out there!

Sex during your period? Absolutely please!

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